Practicing the art of thinking quickly in any given situation rather than opening one’s mouth as the thoughts are still beginning to mull about in the mind is way to insure, as best you can, against saying something you might regret. In doing this, you also have time to ask yourself, is a verbal reaction from me necessary?
In other words, pick your battles. Choose to place your energy in situations that benefit you and build a more positive scenario for others around you. I’m reminded of the scene in You’ve Got Mail, where Meg Ryan’s character is in the coffee shop waiting for her anonymous chat room friend to arrive. Her tongue becomes a whip and rapidly spouts out accurate, yet hurtful comebacks to Tom Hank’s character that, while well stated, were something she later regretted.
In our world of reality television and tell-all books, it seems a rarity to know a woman who shares just enough to keep you intrigued, but not so much as to make you feel as though you’ve stepped into her boudoir. Now, we all must have our closest friends with whom we share our intimate secrets with, after all, we all need to vent every once in awhile and not everyone can afford or wants a therapist, but just because someone asks you a question, doesn’t me you are obligated to respond or post it on your Facebook page. In other words, always know something that nobody else knows, it keeps people on their toes.